Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Working out the Kinks

It is honest to say that all relationships need effort to make them work. Like some good old study time before a test, learning about one another is crucial in the always evolving world of people. Sure, sometimes things just fall into place and the fit is perfect, but those don't come a dime a dozen. Usually there are habits and ticks that take some warming up to, and only the dedicated and understanding truly know how to put in that extra something to make it work. Above all else, sometimes it is only time spent that is the missing ingredient to a healthy relationship. Learning about one another and deciding to accept the other person as they are take time, effort, and great communication skills.

I've been reading a book about introducing two stranger rabbits together. Much like people, sometimes things click right away, and you can have one lifetime bonded pair of happy bunnies. Other times, they just simply can't take the presence of one another and will never be friends. Then there is the good old elbow grease relationship. This one takes the most work. You have a pair of stranger bunnies that show signs of aggression at first, but little by little, with time, patience, and understanding, these bunnies become bonded much like the first set of blissful buns. Their world is ruled by scent and body language, and largely they can depend on that because their interactions remain quite simple and face to face.

In the human world, the everpresence of technology sometimes blurs the signals between two people. Our natural instincts can fall short without the signs of body language, tone, and eye contact. We rely heavily on text messages, instant messages, emails, and comments to maintain or understand one another and the relationship. Without the proper interaction, we can miscommunicate and misunderstand the intention behind the simplest response or question. Depending on your own personality, you may derive a whole different meaning than the one intended, and this isn't healthy for anyone.

My thought is this; If you want to have a relationship, work out the kinks of technology. You can pick up your phone to dial, but punch in numbers, not words. Get back to the conversation. Texts are so removed from personal, and relationships thrive on close interaction. I'm not completely against the convenience of texting or messaging, but save the important stuff for the communication each person deserves, face to face or voice to voice.